Rules of the Game (Girl Version): Day 8
I definitely have approach anxiety, specifically the pre-judging kind. I think one guy is too short, another too young, and the third must have a girlfriend, or a fiancee, or a wife! Speaking of, I think guys should have to wear engagement rings too. If I knew who was taken, I think I’d be less shy about approaching men. However, this could merely be an excuse.
Mission 1: Fine-tune Your Openers
Today’s reading mentioned adding a root and a time constraint to my openers. Basically, I’m supposed to explain why I’m randomly asking this person a question (e.g., “My friend and I were having this debate and we need a guy’s opinion”). I’m not 100% certain but I think I do this anyway. I like to fill in the awkward pauses with even more awkward conversation so, yeah, I’m pretty sure I probably come up with an excuse as to why I’m speaking to people all of the time. I don’t think I usually put time constraints on my conversations (e.g., “I just have a minute but I thought I’d ask your opinion”). Maybe this will be good for someone who is “too intense” in the beginning.
But, the problem is… I wouldn’t know. I haven’t tried my openers with or without roots and time constraints. There were three guys who I may have approached but I got too scared.
Actually, I tried talking to one but he didn’t hear me and then I got embarrassed. (Football voice, need to remember that lesson!) I’m glad I didn’t talk to him because he left his credit card in Kinko’s and this other guy thought it was his and Cute Boy got super defensive that it was his. I think he may have been on steroids. “It has my name on it. Wanna take this outside?”
The second one.. I made eyes at him (and maybe him at me) but I was walking and drafting this post. In case you follow this blog closely, you may have noticed an itinerant tweet earlier today. Yeah, the dude was cute enough that I pressed publish when I meant to press save.
So, the third dude.. he was on the treadmill. We also made eyes at one another but I wasn’t about to interrupt his workout.
My personal trainer knows about how I’m trying to learn how to be a player. He told me to just pick a dude in the room and walk up to him, he’d tell me what to say. I couldn’t even do that. Again, none were good enough or I figured they were taken.
Therefore, I did not complete the next two missions.
Mission 2: Approach with Your New Tools
Mission 3: Evaluate
This is not fun. I’m finally getting out of my house and I’m too shy to go up and talk to people. Maybe by Day 14 I’ll change.
As always, tips are much appreciated.